After Collin’s (awesome) unicorn birthday party two weekends ago, I started writing about the great responsibility of raising our little boys, little unicorns, and what they will think about us looking back at these treacherous times.

Then, the week erupted. It not only reared its gnarly and ugly head, it was filled with (white) tears, tears of fear, and emotions. I didn’t want to watch but i knew that as a cis-man, Chinese/Asian American man, I needed to watch the rawness of white supremacy and patriarchy unfold in front of the nation. I needed to reflect on how to support the women around me and on the frontlines not just for what Brett Kavanaugh said and did but also for what he represents — the white ruling elite in this country…